by Dr. Sherri Singer, Psy.D.
Making medication the whole treatment.
1.) Some parents swear by medication for the symptom relief. Others want nothing to do with it. I help both. I tell parents regularly that the meds are for the purpose of curbing symptoms. They don’t build skills. Stop at the symptoms and your child may just stay right where he or she is.
Thinking your child is lazy or stupid.
2.) Problems listening to and following directions as well as homework and school problems are not usually about being lazy or stupid. The responses these kids have are learned based on years of feeling helpless. Frustration can be at the core of these problems and processing problems are usually the culprit. They can be trained differently.
Ignoring basic daily habits as contributory factors in distractibility.
3.) Focusing on some daily habits we all need to pay attention to can make some great changes in behavior, attention, mood and learning. Diet, sleep, exercise, laughing, self-esteem all play a large part in our kid’s and our own day where these things are concerned. Sometimes the answer is simpler than you think.
Believing this is the best your child can do.
4.) Maybe it is, but maybe he or she is capable of more in the right circumstances and training. I have had so many people come to see me telling me that there was nothing else that could be done for their child beyond medication and therapy. Not always true. Sometimes it's a practice issue. A habit that has developed a certain way that needs the opposite training. Sometimes they are capable of so much more than you think with the right changes. There are all kinds of ways to exercise your child’s brain to become more effective and to process information more effectively and automatically. Better processing can mean less frustration and better self esteem. Those can add up to more choices in life. Many parents have breathed a sigh of relief when they saw all the opportunities available to their child.
Not understanding that skills are like muscles. Your brain needs exercise Just like your muscles.
5.) You’ve heard the saying. "If you don’t use it, you lose it". There are lots of things one can do to do this exercise and bring processing skills to a better place.
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