The parents I work with have found my suggestions to be very helpful. They are simple, logical and quick, if you do them in order and you mean business. All consequences should be age appropriate, safe and non harmful/abusive.
1) Take a picture of the clean room-that is their goal. You can post a larger copy of it on the wall.
2) Set a time limit to be finished and to have the room look like the pics. Be reasonable. Don't ask them to clean a hideous room in 5 minutes and at the same time, don't let them have 3 days to clean a small mess.
3) Have an appropriate consequence if not done on time. *Note: I cannot give direct advice about what they should be without direct contact as a client. If your normal consequences are appropriate and non-abusive, you can use those, or if you want more info from me, click the link below.
4) Follow through-if you don't take it seriously, neither will they. This should not surprise anyone but often does. If you threaten a consequence and then don't follow through or keep it going, the behavior will return again and again, because the kids feel it is a safe bet that you won't really do anything.
5.) Be sure you use a consequence that you can do. Have you ever heard yourself say "you're grounded for a month"? Can you really do that? Going overboard.is the number one reason for failure of parental directives. If you ground the child for a month, you are also grounded for a month. That is why it fails. Be appropriate and logically consistent with what you use. Also be careful of just taking away privileges. Any parent worth their salt will tell you that when one disappears,another is found.
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