From a very good friend of mine: "I cringe whenever I hear someone say "God is in control. He must have a reason for this horrible situation." Humans need to take responsibility for their choices."
It really is a negative thing to say, as it absolves people of their part and gives them comfort in staying where they are like a victim. You have the power to make it right for yourself and when you do, that is when you get the help you need.